My Goal Mistakes & How I Fixed It.

Goals used to be a chore for me and honestly just a stupid assignment to do in class that I was going to write them down on a piece of paper and throw away. Now goals are extremely important to me, I have daily, Yearly, and Long term goals. Goals should be centered around things that are most important to you. I feel that if people don't have goals or deadlines when do they feel the happiest when they are accomplishing something great? Do they even realize that they did something amazing? Were they even planning on it? Did it shock them at all? Did you find the next step and if you can't reach it do you give up?

My goals are centered around a book called 'Rich Bitch Goals' and is an amazing book. This books is funny, very honest, and not so black and white. This is essentially a 12 step book to get your life together and I read it when I thought my world was falling apart LOL. Goals should not be black and white but specifically designed for you.

'Lists evolve and repeat'- Nicole Lapin. When reading that line it felt that everything made sense. I am the kind of person whom I am very strong-headed if I can't accomplish a goal I made, I make my second one twice as hard. To elaborate on that in my own life life experience, I had the idea that I was going to weigh the same amount forever as when I was a freshman in high school, and for some people that is true but it's hard to accept the realist part of goal setting and that you cant compare.

Comparison is my biggest enemy and quite frankly many of yours as well. Be easy on yourself, we are all human and life isn't made to be easy, things will always get better. Something that I say when someone or myself is having the worst day ever or so we think we are, is "Well it can only go up or get better from here" and it is so true. I have always made a 'new years resolution' or said 'I swear I'm working out every single day till the year is over (when it was only march, girl be realistic Katie hahaha). I'm not saying to not dream big but be realistic. That made me think of when I was in middle school, high school, and even college I was always taught to have a SMART goal, smart being 'Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound.' When I tell you I every single teacher that taught me this I rolled my eyes and seriously thought they were pranking me. Sure enough, they were not pranking.

In college, I would make extremely specific goals and not just one goal but like 7 goals and when overloading myself I crashed. I mean everyone told me I would, my friends told me I needed to slow down, my parents told me to stop working so much so I wouldn't stress about money and all the books I read said the same thing. I am so stubborn I didn't listen when I thought I was right, I wanted to show everyone that I could do it. Take my advice and save your time, it is not worth the overload, stress or how people view you. I became so obsessed with trying to be 'That girl' eating healthy, working out, drinking matcha, having a perfect boyfriend, perfect friends, wearing the most name brand clothes, and just being happy 24/7, and to be honest, that isn't a realistic mindset and I figured that out quick.

After reading this I want you to make your own goals. (Or you don't have to, cant make you) Share what you are willing to share and have someone close to you keep you accountable. When making these goals I want you to separate your goals into three categories, not one and not seven but three. These three can be whatever you would like them to be, everyone's values are different, make it personalized to you. My categories are Finance (savings, Stocks, jobs, Business), Fun and Function (volunteer, hobbies, trips, community clubs, events, concerts), and Family and Friends ( Start reaching out, taking a trip with a family member, writing thank you and birthday letters, calling our elders). After having three categories, make three goals in each one short term, one that is flexible, and one long term. In the end you will have nine SMART goals that are in all areas of your life, so that there is balance In all aspects of your life. Don't forget 'LISTS EVOLVE ADJUST AND REPEAT'.

I want to give full credit for this blog post and a huge thank you to Nicole Lapin and her team for writing the book 'Rich Bitch Goals' and honestly taught me mostly if not all I need to know, where I don't have to pick up another goals book again. She made it very easy and fun to read and I would recommend this book to anyone, that wants something similar to this post but more detailed and elaborate, as Nicole does a wonderful job. You can click the image to take you to purchase the book.

The one thing that I want you to take away from this post if anything is that, don't try to be someone you aren't, do things that make you happy. Stick to your goals, grow and evolve.